I’m going to start this blog off with one of my favourite quotes;
‘Time is a created thing. To say ‘I Don’t have time’ is like saying ‘I don’t want to’’
99% of my clients are females. A good majority of those are mums. Within that many of these mums have young kids.
Time is a huge obstacle for these ladies. There’s getting the kids up for school, getting breakfast ready, shipping them off to school, coming home, doing the chores (if not working), collect the kids, feed the kids, chat with partner, more chores and at the end of it all there may be time to feed oneself!
That’s a very general overview of a day and doesn’t go into intricate detail. This doesn’t break down every single minute. That seems like a very hectic day with not a moments rest.
I get it. You’re busy. You have a lot on your plate, however…….
Could You Make Time?
Perhaps I’ll upset some of you right now, but if you really, REALLY wanted to make some extra time in your day I’m sure you could. Sorry but if you can’t find 45-60 minutes three times per week for fitness then there’s something completely messed up with your routine.
If someone put a gun to your head I’m sure you’d find plenty of time to train.
Here’s the real reason you ‘don’t have time’; you don’t want to. Or you don’t prioritise your health. That’s it. It’s not that you’re looking after the kids 24/7 or that you’re spending every waking hour working.
You simply don’t place enough importance upon your health. Oh and you might be a little lazy.
I’m sorry but someone has to say it. It’s blunt but it’s true. You can blame this, that or the other but plenty of women JUST like you are making time for it. Suppose you’re different though? Let me tell you a story….
In a previous job I trained a female client. I knew she had kids to begin with but that was all. It turns out that this lady had three young kids, was a full time nursing manager, was completing a masters AND was training three times per week! Still feel like you’re different?
I’ll throw in my disclaimer right now. Obviously I’m not a mum. I’m not even a parent! How in lord’s name am I supposed to know what a ladies day is made up of?
Well I’ve spoken to countless clients. I’ve discussed such issues with them. There are lots of women making the time for their health and fitness.
Prioritise, Prioritise, Prioritise!
First off you have to make your fitness a priority. If you don’t believe in its value what’s the point? Other than family emergencies it has to come number 1. Notice I said emergencies? Your child wanting to go to the playpark or go to a friend’s house isn’t an emergency.
Your health comes ahead of trivial crap like that. You’re going to be a better mum by being fitter and healthier so it needs to be put above things like that.
When you choose to do things like that instead of working on your health you’re effectively saying ‘I can’t be bothered, it’s not a priority for me.’
And that’s fine. Just don’t pretend to yourself that you have no time for exercise. Just come out and say that you don’t want to train. Stop blaming time constraints.
Look at Your Day in Fine Detail
So here’s the bit you really won’t like. You’re probably wasting your time on meaningless things. How often do you go onto Facebook, or watch the news, or Netflix or the newspaper.
Are any of those things adding anything to your life? Or are they just filling your head with useless jargon.
If you have time to squander on Facebook I’m sure you’ve time to exercise. You’d be surprised how much time can be wasted on social media. 20 minutes goes by like a flash.
I was like that once. Complaining that I hadn’t time to work on projects, to read, to meditate, to work out etc. If I was being honest with myself I just wasn’t prepared to put in the work.
Plus I was spending an ungodly amount of time on social media. Cut back on unfruitful activities such as these so you can make time for more beneficial habits.
You don’t have to go teetotal, obviously keep in contact with friends etc. but just be mindful of the time you’re wasting.
What Are You Prepared to Do?
There’s a give and take with achieving most things in life. Anything worthwhile takes a considerable amount of work. To get to the level of fitness or physique you want it is going to require a certain amount of effort. You’re going to have to make sacrifices.
Are you prepared to make those sacrifices? Are you prepared to cut back on social media, Netflix and maybe a little bit of time with your partner or kids? Because that’s what it’s going to take.
Are you prepared to put in the extra work to make healthier meals? Are you willing to push this new lifestyle upon your family? Have an honest conversation with yourself. If not then at least you know. You won’t get upset that you’re not achieving your goals.
Undertaking a radical lifestyle change will have an effect on your family. You NEED to discuss it with your partner and kids. Their dinner choices may change, you won’t be able to wait hand and foot on them and you might miss out on some time together. However, the time you do spend together will be of better quality as you’ll be happier and healthier.
Creating buy in from the whole family is really important for all you mums. You need that support.
The Bottom Line
This blog might seem a little harsh but it needs to be said. I understand that you ladies are under pressure but it can, and has been done.
My point is look at your life right now and decide whether or not you’re willing to make the sacrifices to improve your physique. If not that’s all well and good.
Just don’t complain that you haven’t the time.
If you’re interested in taking part in a program with me why not send me an email to firstname.lastname@example.org